My Passcode 7-7-7-7 Saved Our Marriage

Have you ever heard the saying, “It’s a matter of life or death.” In my law enforcement career, confidentiality truly was a matter of life and death. Taking that concept a step deeper, was the tricky process of managing confidential informants, or CI. These were people who provided intelligence or set up drug deals in exchange […]

Men, Stop Cheating

Men are trapped in the culture of silence. We liken it to a medal of honor, when in fact it’s a rotting albatross strapped around our neck.

Why Men Cheat

A few years ago while I was still serving as Chief of Police, a sergeant entered my office. He folded himself into a leather chair and looked at me with his chin twisted sideways and his furrowed brow fixed across my desk. He asked a simple question. “Why do cops cheat?” I’d never been asked that […]